In my experience, there is nothing more humbling than being a parent. You have to set aside your dreams and aspirations, professional duties and goals, etc. to serve your family.
Imagine this scenario:
You have tons of work to do. You wake up early to get it done. Then, what do you hear? The kid is crying. Screaming. Why? A whole host of possible reasons: diaper change, bad dream, hungry, scared, who knows?
The key is: how do we react as a parent?
Take this morning for instance.
Today I have a big test. I have oral exams for a MA degree in theology. I have a lot to do–an almost infinite amount of re-reading and studying that I could be doing.
Here is where the sanctification part comes in:
My reaction is usually mixed feelings of frustration, anger, resentment, grief, and fear that I won’t accomplish what I’m trying to do. What is the source of these feelings (also known as the Resistance)? Pride.
This is my time! I have work to do! Why can’t you be a good sleeper! (Of course, I don’t say that but I’m basically thinking it.)
What is the alternative? Love. Service. Humility.
I love her to death but it doesn’t always make it easy to set aside my life for hers.
This is sanctification at work within me. I can’t react in love on my own. I need God’s grace. I need a heart configured by love. Only by entering into love can I truly be the parent I’m called to be.